In the midst of doubts and misgivings, we met by chance at the Center for Memory, Peace and Reconciliation, with Mrs. Gladys Acevedo, president and promoter of the foundation "Color and hope for our heroes." We went to the site with Leidy Sarmiento, to talk about the historical memory of the Farian women.
When we hear the word "heroes", we remember with indignation the slogan and ideology of "Democratic Security", it is not easy to listen to your opponent, nor is it easy to find the points in common, we reflect later.
In the first meeting, things flowed, we met an indigenous woman, poor, critical of the state's abandonment of the victims and with the firm will to vindicate her son, a regular soldier who had died.
In that conversation we understood that for these women, far from hatred and revenge, there was a painful story, of children who went to a war in defense of the powerful class, recruited in batidas, or who voluntarily joined the army for admiration or lack of opportunities.
They grouped together united by the immense pain left by the loss of their children or husbands, they did not understand very well the causes of the war, they were surviving in the midst of economic difficulties and they agreed on the need to demand reparation from the State, dignity for their loved ones, truth and psychosocial support for their families.
They did not know anything about the JEP, nor about the Peace Agreement, so we took an appointment to talk about the issue, between coffees and talks, we got to know each other; the dehumanized image they had of the FARC, the "victimizers", was transformed into the "girls of the red rose". We easily got close, trusting each others, understanding that perhaps it is not possible to have common ground on "politics", but that the loss that we have felt after the war as a Colombian family inevitably ties us together.
They were criticised by other people for talking to the "murderers of their children", we were criticised for "giving status" to the army. It is not easy to understand real reconciliation, the sense of meeting with the opponent, and this was clearly proved by the negotiation table in Havana. We quickly understood that we were not on different shores, as women, as poor, as fighters and committed to Peace.
We invited them to have lunch at the Congress, we cried together, we told anecdotes, we learned of the recycled paper agendas that they make as a way to finance their foundation. We organize the public event, to tell the country that reconciliation is possible ...
Their clamor for peace is so authentic, so legitimate. It could never be compared to the message of hatred and thirst for violence that floods the discourses of the ruling political class, which has not only benefited from the war, but in fact keeps deepening more and more the causes of the conflict.
We will continue to meet, looking for alternatives and above all repeating the slogan: Not a child more for war!
This process did not come out through the media, it is not news for them. They are busy covering the near crisis.